Double Date soon?

My best friend in high school and I became best friends in 8th grade while sitting on the brick wall at the practice field and watching girls pair up and talk about their hair and shoes. We literally looked at each other and said "I like you, wanna be best friends?" It was like something that happens in Kindergarten at recess. Whatever, it happened and it stuck. We were inseparable until we graduated high school and went on about our lives, staying in contact occasionally still through Instagram, Facebook or random texts once a year or so. After her and I split (it was like a break up almost), my boyfriend at the time became my sole relationship. We got married, had a baby and lived happily ever after....wrong, we isolated ourselves, got pregnant, got married and a year and a half later, divorced. We had poured our souls into each other and nothing else, for four years and when it ended we were both more alone than we ever knew possible. We had no one. No friends came to the rescue, he was my only friend, and I his. So years pass....we both have remarried and learned our lesson. However, finding friends is hard. I don't mean aquaintences, I mean FRIENDS. The kind you call crying after a fight and she shows up with wine and a sappy movie. The kind you can talk about your periods and poop schedules with. The kind that you become their kids "aunts" because you are together more than actual blood aunts. Don't lie, you know you want that kind of friendship. If you already have that kind of friend, you know how important it is. I had that kind of friend, and want that kind of friend again. Not that my precious hubby isn't enough, because he is. He will forever be my best friend, BUT....sometimes I need a girl to go shopping with and tell me, honestly, if those pants make my butt look big. I can't just sit on a wall though and say "wanna be friends?" anymore, because people are crazy and it's just not that easy. So what do you do? How do you approach the subject as a 30 something adult needing a girl's night?

I have recently began stalking random couples that might have similar interests as Mike and I. Yes, stalking is the correct word, unfortunately technology makes it to easy now a days to learn all of someone's dirty secrets....but it still requires research (aka, stalking). So today I decided to message an old friend...his ex-wife and I grew up together, they went through a nasty divorce, she made all our friends choose sides, and so I remained acquaintences with him and not her (don't make me choose between you, we are not 12). Anyway, he has recently remarried, she likes to cook (I like to cook), they have kids about 12 and 8 (we have kids about 12 and 8), ding ding ding....(there are more points, but this post is getting to long) winner, winner, chicken dinner. So I messaged and literally just said, "double date soon?". Technology is a scary thing, that went down about 30 minutes ago, she is already texting me, we already are making plans, and I know her full name, birthday and history (not really). So we have a double date soon....I'm nervous....that's dumb. It's hard making FRIENDS, it's like dating. You have to put effort in and get to know the person and trust them. You have to put time in, and sometimes you have to MAKE time, but in the long run what you gain is so important. Let's see how it goes.